The dangers of craving novelty
1) Stillness reveals what speed obscures. 2) Novelty craving sabotages growth. 3) Life is a rhythm, not a battle. 4) Dating thrives on curiosity, not expectation.
July 12th, 2025 - Issue #126 - read online
👋 Welcome to Pursuit—your weekly pause for intentional living, self-discovery, and inner clarity. My name is Amir, and every week I share four carefully chosen ideas to help you design a more fulfilling life.
This week at a glance:
⏩ What fast living often overlooks
🆕 The dangers of craving novelty
👯♂️ The dance needs to be danced
👫 Dating with curiosity, not expectation
⏩ What fast living often overlooks
When you're always rushing, life becomes a blur. But when you slow down, things come into focus.
You start to notice the patterns: the people and habits that quietly drain your energy, the ones that restore it. You begin to spot the activities that align with your strengths—the ones that leave you more alive than exhausted. You make space for the unexpected, the nonlinear, the high-reward chances that fast living often misses.
You begin to see the details: a patch of light on the floor, a breath that feels full, a moment of quiet joy. What once felt like wasted time becomes the very space where clarity grows.
Life isn’t short by default. It only feels that way when you sprint through all of it.
Stillness isn’t a pause from growth. It’s where growth hides, waiting for you to notice.
✨ From The Case for Slowing Down
🆕 The dangers of craving novelty
The greatest threat to building the life you want is the craving for novelty.
We’re wired to chase what’s new, but the things that matter most are shaped through quiet, steady repetition. They grow in the background, not through excitement but through consistency.
The business you want is built through years of pounding away on a core, central idea.
The career you want is built through years of showing up and doing what you say you're going to do.
The relationships you want are formed through showing up, being present, and staying.
The body you want is the result of small daily choices—movement, rest, nutrition—repeated over time.
It’s not intensity but persistence that builds a meaningful life.
✨ From 11 Things I Quit to Transform My Life
👯♂️ The dance needs to be danced
We often see life as a battle—a fight to make order prevail over chaos, good over evil, light over dark. But the deeper we look, the more we see that these forces are not enemies. They are actually more like partners.
Disorder is not the enemy of order; it is its foundation. A figure only exists because of its background. A yes only means something in relation to a no. We see this in nature, in the flow of life itself—the way opposites define and complete each other. The mistake is in believing one must win.
When we awaken to this, the world changes. Life is no longer a contest, but a rhythm—an interplay of forces that cannot exist without each other. The goal is not to conquer, but to participate. Not to fight, but to move with the flow.
To see this is to step beyond struggle. It is to recognize that joy and sorrow, chaos and order, light and dark—each gives meaning to the other. The dance does not need a winner. It only needs to be danced.
The next time you feel you’re struggling watch this video of Alan Watts and remind yourself that the dance doesn’t need a winner, it just needs to be danced.
👫 Dating with curiosity, not expectation
Trevor Noah had Esther Perel on his show for a fascinating conversation about dating today. Here’s what stuck with me:
In the beginning, prioritize curiosity over butterflies. Instead of chasing immediate sparks, focus on whether someone genuinely intrigues you—do they inspire questions? A desire to know more? Healthy curiosity thrives on openness and a willingness to continue the conversation. Shift from evaluating whether they meet your standards to exploring who they are. Pay attention to the mental, emotional, physical, and sensorial connections—especially the ease and comfort in their presence.
Rather than structured, high-pressure first dates, try integrating them into your life. Invite them to an activity you were already planning, like a picnic with friends. This offers insight into how they engage with your world and allows your friends to observe your dynamic. It makes dating feel less like an interview and more like an organic unfolding of connection.
🎵 Music I’m listening to
You’ll find mostly Ethnotronica, Organic House, World, Disco, and Organic Electronic here:
🎧 If you appreciate the music I carefully select and haven't followed my Spotify playlists yet, now is the perfect time to hit that follow button and join me on this musical journey! 🎶
🌒 Pano: Danceable and electronic obscure songs
🌓 Sisy: Ethnotronica and organic house
🌑 Berghain: Dark, minimal techno and tech house
🌕 Heide: Groovy soul and disco house
🌞 Sonntag: Afterhours shit
🦥 Slow rave: Sleepy techno for tired danced
🌎 World: From Latin jazz to Turkish psych
🌚 Super Slow: For your intimate moments
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