#12: It is the Road

#values #love #empathy #health #thinking

Mar 31, 2023

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This week’s discovery:

🐚 The Four Pillars of Integrity (Part 2) #values
🪚 Practice Mastery - #love
❤️‍🩹 The Power of Kindness - #empathy
🚰 How Much Water Should You Drink During Exercise - #health
✍🏼 Why You Should Have a Blog - #thinking
⭐ A quote, a series, and music tracks…

🐚 The Four Pillars of Integrity (Part 2)

For those who didn't get a chance to listen to the full podcast episode, this week, I'm presenting the final two pillars of integrity when it comes to relationships.

3rd Pillar: Cander is the gateway to connection

Speak candidly and authentically reveal yourself. Don't hold back your thoughts, judgments, opinions, or beliefs. Withholds lead to less aliveness and disconnect from relationships. In relationships, we often withhold our true thoughts and feelings, withdrawing from the connection and projecting our judgments onto our partners. This is a recipe for boredom and deadness in the relationship. Instead, we must practice being revealed and speaking authentically, even when it feels risky. So don't be afraid to embrace vulnerability and offer your whole heart.

🎧 6-min

4th Pillar: Be impeccable with your agreements

Make clear agreements and take responsibility for keeping them. When it comes to relationships, there is no greater pillar of integrity than being impeccable with your agreements. If you find yourself unable to keep an agreement, let the other party know immediately and renegotiate. Don't make excuses or rationalizations. Take responsibility and clean up any broken agreements. When you consistently keep your agreements, your trustworthiness will grow, and so will the energy and aliveness of your relationships.

🎧 4-min

🪚 Practice Mastery

The word “practice” is sort of like “school”—it’s the thing you do before the real thing. It is temporary. But there are other ways of understanding practice that go much deeper. It is not something you do to prepare for the real thing, it is the whole thing. It’s not something you do, it’s a path that has no end. Mastery is not the end of the road, it is the road. The point is to stay on it. The source of anxiety is not your ambitious goals. Instead, it is your inability to trust and surrender to the path.

📖 8-min

❤️‍🩹 The Power of Kindness

When you shift away from negative self-talk and self-criticism, you open yourself up to seeing the world through a different lens. One that recognizes the pain and suffering of others, and the fear they feel of being judged. By letting go of anger and hostility, we can change the energy we emanate and transform our interactions with the world. Remember that we are all products of our past, and it is not our fault if we do not have the tools to deal with our pain. Instead of blaming ourselves or others, let us offer kindness and understanding. And in doing so, we may find that the world is a much more loving and thoughtful place than we ever imagined.

🎧 5-min

🚰 How Much Water Should You Drink During Exercise

To optimize your hydration during exercise, aim to consume approximately 2 milliliters of water per kilogram of body weight every 15 to 20 minutes. This is based on the Galpin equation. It is also important to establish good baseline hydration before exercise by consuming approximately 240 milliliters of fluid per hour in the first 10 hours of waking. Remember to adjust your water intake based on your individual needs and the type of exercise you are doing.

🎧 4-min

✍🏼 Why You Should Have a Blog

When I heard this talk from Seth Godin, I felt like he was speaking directly to me. Although I wish I had started earlier, I am happy that I began.

If you want to be a better thinker, you should have a blog. Not because you'll make money, because you won't. Not because you'll have millions of readers, because you won't. But because of the discipline it gives you. It will help you make predictions, assertions, and connections. And it will be there for you to look at and reflect on later. Sharing your ideas with others will also help you get out of your own head. You'll no longer be stuck in your own narrative, but will be able to share it with others. Focus on a small, specific audience that you want to serve. If you are consistent and generous, it will be worth it.

🎧 2-min

⭐ A quote, a series, and music tracks…

Carnival Row: I just finished watching the second season of Carnival Row and enjoyed it a lot. If you're a fantasy fan and enjoyed Pan's Labyrinth, you should give this one a shot.