#73: I Want to Keep Trying
#73: I Want to Keep Trying
#ForcedPositivity #EmotionalResilience #MindingOwnBusiness #PrisonMentality
👋 Welcome to this week's Pursuit. My name is Amir, and each week I go over 10 hours of content in pursuit of living a meaningful and fulfilling life. I'm grateful to share my findings with you and hope I can make a small difference during your challenging times. If you're on a quest for depth in an era of superficial abundance, make sure to subscribe and join our journey.
This week’s discovery:
😒 The Problems with Forced Positivity
🧗🏼 I Want to Keep Trying
🤫 The Merits of Minding Your Own Business
🧱 Seeing The Walls
🫀 A New Health Service in Berlin
🗒️ A Quote I'm Pondering On
🎵 Music I'm Listening To
😒 The Problems with Forced Positivity
The concept of forced positivity can often lead to an avoidance of difficult emotions, creating an unrealistic expectation to always be in a good mood. This approach doesn't necessarily signify coping well with life's challenges. Instead, it can serve as an avoidant coping strategy, neglecting the reality of one's situation. For instance, in the face of grief, maintaining a facade of strength and positivity might earn praise, but it doesn't facilitate true emotional healing or resilience. The culture of "good vibes only" is quite pervasive, but it hampers our ability to have challenging conversations, understand shared values, and learn from our experiences. Essentially, enforcing positivity means prioritizing personal comfort over the reality of others. Interestingly, it's the acknowledgment and exploration of our difficult emotions, instead of avoiding them, that paves the way for profound healing and resilience.
🧗🏼 I Want to Keep Trying
I am working on making peace with when things don’t go the way I assume they’re supposed to. I’m working on releasing my expectations to make space to see the goodness even in what is lost. And I’m working on letting the process of making things matter more than the outcome of the making — on how I’m shaped and molded just by choosing to try. I’m grateful for the trying. I want to keep trying.
🤫 The Merits of Minding Your Own Business
The idea of enforcing morality can be a double-edged sword. Yes, morality matters and there's a place for enforcing it, but it's easy to cross boundaries when doing so. For example, we may not always have the full context, the issue may be too complex, or we might simply lack the appropriate social standing. The moralizer enforces morality without considering these limitations, often intruding where they don't belong. To illustrate, even if you're right about someone's wrongdoing, you don't always have the right to intervene. This could be due to the small scale of the issue, limited information, or because you're overstepping your social role. The moralizer asks "Does morality belong here?" while they should be asking "Do I belong here?" The moralizer tends to enforce morality regardless of the answer.
🧱 Seeing The Walls
Most people end up being conformists; they adapt to prison life. A few become reformers; they fight for better lighting, better ventilation. Hardly anyone becomes a rebel, a revolutionary who breaks down the prison walls. You can only be a revolutionary when you see the prison walls in the first place.
🫀 A New Health Service in Berlin
A few weeks ago, I subscribed to a health service in Berlin called Aware. They offer a user-friendly app that makes booking comprehensive checkup appointments possible in just few clicks. I had my blood drawn in their modern lab in Rosenthaler Platz. Within 24 hours, my app showed the test results, indicating the optimal and suboptimal markers, along with recommendations for improvement. Aware provides an annual subscription that includes two full checkups per year. If you want to prioritize your health and seek a solution to monitor your biomarkers, I recommend checking out Aware. If you decide to join you can use my referral code (8F23E7022C4) to get €20 off.
🗒️ A Quote I'm Pondering On
The bamboo that bends is stronger than the oak that resists.
🎵 Music I'm Listening To
You’ll find mostly Ethnotronica, Organic House, World, Disco, and Organic Electronic here:
🎧 If you appreciate the music I carefully select and haven't followed my Spotify playlists yet, now is the perfect time to hit that follow button and join me on this musical journey! 🎶
🌒 Pano: Danceable and electronic obscure songs
🌓 Sisy: Ethnotronica and organic house
🌑 Berghain: Dark, minimal techno and tech house
🌕 Heide: Groovy soul and disco house
🌞 Sonntag: Afterhours shit
🌎 World: From Latin jazz to Turkish psych
🌚 Super Slow: For your intimate moments
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