#20: Aim for Harmony

#self-help #dating #balance #freedom #plg

May 26, 2023

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This week’s discovery:

😓 Listen to Your Anxiety
🥰 Focus on Psychological Traits When Dating
🎷 Aim for Harmony Rather than Work/Life Balance
🕊️ Go for Freedom
🎯 Understanding Product-Qualified Acronyms
⭐ A quote and music tracks…

😓 Listen to Your Anxiety

Anxiety and procrastination can be useful signals from your brain about how it feels about what's going on. Is the anxiety a manifestation of your brain realizing that you don't have a feasible path toward success? Is it possible that you're just in love with the idea of launching a business, but don't really know much about running a business? If that's the case, you might want to learn more about the process or adjust your goal. On the other hand, if you have confidence that you're on the right track but feel like you're going too slow, it might be time to make more sacrifices and formalize your actions. Remember, the key is to keep going and not let anxiety and procrastination hold you back from achieving your goals.

🎧 3-min

🥰 Focus on Psychological Traits When Dating

If you're struggling in the dating game, it can be tempting to try and compete at the same level as the most conventionally attractive people out there. Remember, you're not trying to be someone you're not. You're just trying to be the best version of yourself for a potential partner. If you're a nerd, don't try to hide it. Nerd it up and find someone who shares your interests. Focus on the psychological traits that really matter, like having a growth mindset, a secure attachment style, satisfaction with life, and conscientiousness. These traits may not be as flashy, but they're what really increase your odds of long-term happiness in a relationship.

🎧 4-min

🎷 Aim for Harmony Rather than Work/Life Balance

The good news is that neither work nor leisure time must satisfy all your psychological needs. Instead, each role in life you have (e.g., experienced foreman, loving husband, caring son, dedicated Red Cross volunteer and avid chess player) plays an important part in an orchestra. Coordination of these different roles, and satisfaction of needs via active engagement in these roles, result in what we call ‘life domain harmony’ – the symphony of your life. The important point is that it doesn’t matter how much each domain of your life contributes to your needs as long as your needs are somehow met by one or more of the different roles you play in life. There is empirical evidence suggesting that balanced needs satisfaction is more beneficial than the satisfaction of only certain needs.

📖 18-min (skim through my highlights)

🕊️ Go for Freedom

Go for freedom. Instead of getting caught up in the cycle of constantly buying more and more stuff, focus on creating a lifestyle that gives you the freedom to do what you love every day. When you're doing what you love, you'll excel at it, and the money will come as a result. Of course, it won't always be easy, but if you love what you do, the pain will be worth it. True wealth comes not from having a lot of money, but from having fun and enjoying life. So if you want to be truly rich, focus on finding freedom and having fun along the way.

🎧 2-min

🎯 Understanding Product-Qualified Acronyms

PQA is an account that has demonstrated a certain level of engagement with your product, making them a good candidate for a sales conversation. However, it's important to note that not all PQA will have a product-qualified lead (PQL) in them. In other words, just because an account is highly engaged with your product doesn't necessarily mean there's a decision-maker within that account who's ready to buy. So, before you send your sales team after a PQA, you need to make sure you've identified the right buying persona within that account. This is where marketing-qualified leads (MQL) come into play, as they can help connect the right decision-maker with the right PQA. By understanding the nuances of PQA, PQL, and MQL, you'll be better equipped to build a healthy and sustainable pipeline to sales.

🎧 3-min